How to Spot a Pridentity (and Cultivate Humanility Instead)
You know what’s surprisingly easy to miss?
Pride in disguise.
Not the loud, boastful kind.
The polished kind.
The kind that serves casseroles and quotes scripture.
The kind that leads prayer meetings and still subtly wants the spotlight.
The kind that cuts you off in traffic just to prove a point.
The kind that hogs the entire cream and sugar counter at Starbucks like they invented caffeine.
It’s called pridentity—when our need to be seen gets dressed up like virtue.
And let’s be honest… we’ve all worn it.
You Might Be Living in a Pridentity If...
You “apologize” by explaining how they misunderstood you.
You post a selfie with a Bible verse to keep it “holy.”
You get offended when someone else gets the credit—especially when you did the work.
You lowkey believe your pain is more valid than someone else’s because of how much more you’ve grown through it.
You share a “prayer request” that sounds suspiciously like gossip… with Scripture.
Enter Jesus: The King Who Took the Low Seat
If anyone had the right to dominate the room, it was Jesus.
But He knelt. Washed feet. Sat at the lowest seat.
He didn’t defend Himself.
Didn’t interrupt.
Didn’t take the mic and start with, “As the Son of God…”
“When you are invited, take the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he will say to you, ‘Friend, move up to a better place.’”
—Luke 14:10
Jesus wasn’t weak.
He was strong enough to stay silent—and still shake the heavens.
So, What Does That Mean for Us?
It means we stop asking,
“How can I stand out?”
And start asking,
“How can I lift someone else up?”
It means we catch ourselves mid-humblebrag and just... zip it.
It means when the world says Build your brand, we say Build the Kingdom.
When pride wants to shout, we let Jesus whisper instead.
Humanility: The New Identity
Humanility isn’t about groveling.
It’s about grounding.
It’s not pretending you’re less than.
It’s remembering you’re not the center.
It’s the secret sauce of people who:
Apologize first.
Defer credit.
Pray more than they post.
Love even when they’re overlooked.
Take the cart back at the grocery store—even in the rain. (You know who you are.)
This Isn’t a Takedown. It’s a Turn-Around.
We’re not shaming the strivers or dunking on the platform climbers.
We’re inviting them—inviting ourselves—to the quiet, beautiful, abundant life found in the lowest seat at the table.
Because the King is the one hosting the banquet.
And He’s the one who says, “Friend, come up higher.”
Tomorrow:
We'll look at how humility heals the spaces pride has broken—starting with our families, friendships, churches, and communities.
Because this isn’t about “feeling small.”
It’s about finally feeling free.
Join the revolution.
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